So.
I’ve been thinking a lot about what I want to say, or even whether or not I want to say anything at all. I’ve mentally written and rewritten posts in my head, and I’m still not entirely sure how I want to respond to all of this. Because here’s the thing: I can’t defend myself against personal attacks. I can defend my writing. I can defend my ideas. I can defend my post. I stand by it. I pointed out what I saw as hypocritical and conflicting, and even with the reaction that I received, I’d post it again.
You are welcome to defend your post and your ideas. If you want to stay on topic and do so, by all means, you’re welcome to. If you want to say, “Hey, my opinions changed because abc.” Or you can say, “Well, you’re right, there is something a bit amiss, and I think it’s because xyz.” There was one paragraph in FNWL’s second reblog and one comment that did so. It would have been a pretty cool discussion if that one paragraph had been the initial response.
But instead, I made this post about conflicting ideas about food issues and double standards for yourself and other people. I stuck to what was written in a public forum and what had been written in the past. And these are just some quotes from the responses that it somehow snowballed into, without my adding anything:
“Women are punished for what they eat, what they wear, who they sleep with, the choices they make, the things they talk about, and the words they choose to talk about them with.”
“[P]eople say unkind things about the people I care about.”
“I think it’s clear to everyone that some - not all - of Hot Yellow Fellows’ post directed mostly at LMMIS and [FNWL] yesterday was just her wanting to be narky and have a little dig. “
“That means [FNWL is] banned from talking about it?”
“HYF will get all hoity toity because [FNWL] once made a comment (a comment! On someone else’s Tumblr blog! Not even a blog post! Why you following [FNWL]? Bit Creepy McCreep) “
“FUCK being accused of dating men too young for [FNWL]. FUCK being accused of one-upmanship.”
” […] whatever the flip else people want to throw at [FNWL] out of their ridiculous-ass prams”
“That is what is truly sucky about everything.”
“Why are a majority of the ~famous~ bloggers condescending cocks?”
I’m a baby. I’m a creep. I’m a cock. I’m banning people from posting. I’m saying unkind things. I’m hoity toity. I’m being, in so many words, petty and making personal attacks and digs. I’m what’s making Tumblr sucky. I’m telling women who they should and should not sleep with. I’m being held responsible and accountable for things other bloggers have posted. Additionally, I’m now eating alone tomorrow night, because a fellow Tumblr blogger has since canceled her dinner plans with me.
All because of this post. This one little post. Talking about people being hypocritical.
I still stand by that post, Tumblr. And I still stand by the idea that some of you are hypocritical. You accuse me of personal attacks because I disagreed with a post you made, and then turn around and call me names and discuss me as a person. Not my post. Me. HYF.
Tumblr, you are confusing and exhausting. And here’s one more example as to why.
